Mothers
TRIBUTE TO HERTHA FEINER
In his 1966 essay, "Erziehung nach
Auschwitz," the philosopher Theodor W. Adorno outlines basic principles of
Holocaust Education that have gained in relevance over the decades: one has to
recognize the mechanisms that make human beings capable of committing atrocities
and attempt to hinder them. Hatred can be overcome through critical self-reflection.
Hatred against religio-ethnic otherness results from a cultural claustrophobia.
This cultural claustrophobia strengthens the rage against civilization itself
and can easily lead to a relapse into barbarism. This occurs through societal
mechanisms which encourage a blind identification with the collective. Hitler
and his henchmen did not primarily manipulate individuals but masses.
Human beings who blindly join collective masses erase
all tendencies toward self-determination. The only true principle against
Auschwitz is autonomy: the ability of reflection, of self-determination, of non-cooperation
with evil.
The study of personal letters and documents from the
Holocaust period can lead to the formation of such autonomous individuals
because they appeal to the subjective side of the readers' experience and
encourage the reader to think individually. The epistolatory literature of the
Holocaust is inspirational to us: it is a literature that demands the extension
of life-giving forces.
To date, little attention has been given to
parent/child relationships among the people affected by the Holocaust. It is
important to remember that one and a half million children died in the Holocaust
and that the persecution of children is one of the factors giving the Holocaust
its unique nature. There is a certain difficulty in dealing with the murder of
children that makes this area sparsely researched. Yet a broader awareness of
the ways children (and 2 parents) suffered through the Holocaust can help to
bring about the subjective resistance to genocide that Adorno discussed in his
essay.
It is not easy for us in the 21st century to
contemplate the dilemmas of raising Jewish children in the Third Reich, because
such contemplation bring us out of our comfort zone. But what about those
parents during the Nazi dictatorship who were forced to contemplate the
unthinkable monstrosity that their children would be exterminated?
Hertha Feiner was such a person. She was a divorced
Jewish mother who sent her two daughters, Inge and Marion Anmus (aged fourteen
and twelve), to a private boarding school in Switzerland with the help and
cooperation of her non-Jewish former husband, because she loved her children too
much to keep them by her side while she remained in the Third Reich. In the
meantime, she made frantic and unsuccessful attempts to emigrate from Germany. She
finally died by her own hand while on a mass transport to the extermination camp
at Auschwitz. Against this
background, we cannot help but admire the maternal tenderness of her letters to
her children which have recently been published under the title, Vor der
Deportation: Briefe an die Töchter, Januar 1939-Dezember 1942. The letters
reveal a deep desire on the part of Hertha Feiner to be an intimate part of the
exiled daughters' lives: Hertha Feiner tries to convey to her children the notion that the equality between Christians and Jews is a right grounded in nature. She is concerned that her daughters do well in the non-Jewish environment to which she has sent them, because she has done it to save their lives. For her, the anthropological equality between Christians and Jews is grounded in the laws of nature and she wants her children to have reverence for them. She urges her children to share all aspects of their lives with her: "Schreibt nur ehrlich alles, auch wenn's mal nicht nach Eurem Geschmack ist, aber ich muß das Bewußtsein haben, daß Ihr mir alles mitteilt."(Feiner, 32) [Write about everything honestly, even if you do not like it, for I must have the perception that you are sharing everything with me.] She goes to great lengths to explain to her children that her decision to send them out of the country does not constitute an abdication of her motherly prerogatives. She wants to be concerned and involved with her children even while in the throes of social circumstances which threaten her own life. Hertha goes to great lengths to reassure her children that there is nothing wrong with their living in a non-Jewish milieu as long as they strive to be upright human beings: She tries to reassure her children that religio-cultural compromises are nothing to be ashamed of, survival is more important than the avoidance of dislocations in religious identity. She assures her children that it will not be forever:
Security for her children is the top priority for
Hertha, although she has long range hopes for a reunion with them. In the
meantime, she is glad that they seem to be happy in the school that is their
place of exile.
Only very rarely does Hertha refer to her own
agonies, such as in this letter of March 1940: Hertha generally tries to understate the dangers confronting her:
Es ist hier nichts Besonderes passiert, und Ihr braucht um mich keine Sorgen zu machen, aber ich glaube nicht, daß ich in Deutschland bleiben kann. Ihr wißt, wie ich zu Euch stehe, and ich will natürlich nicht ohne Euch in einem anderen Erdteil wandern. Also abwarten! Wir können nichts anderes tun, als uns gesund erhalten und lernen, lernen! (Feiner, 53) [Nothing particular has happened here and you do not need to worry about me but I do not believe that I can remain in Germany. You know how I feel about you, and of course I do not want to go to another part of the world without you. Wait and see! We cannot do anything, except stay healthy, and study! study!]In none of her letters does Hertha Feiner directly refer to the dangers confronting Jews in Germany, although her position as a teacher and Jewish community leader made her well aware of them. She instead asserts, I cannot make it as nice for you here as they can there. She wants to protect her children from any knowledge of the perils confronting her which encouraged her to send her children into exile in the first place. The Holocaust survivor and eminent psychologist Bruno Bettelheim once remarked that Anne Frank and her sister Margot would have survived the Holocaust if their parents could have sent them into exile before they themselves went into hiding. Hertha Feiner followed precisely that course of action and her children are still with us today. Her legacy to us is a series of eloquent letters which document the unselfish decisions she made on behalf of her children during a time of unfathomable crisis. After all was said and done, she kept her daughters alive. Can we do any less than support the efforts of Inge and Marion Anmus to keep the memory of their mother alive?
For Peter R. Erspamer's biography, please see
© Peter R. Erspamer, 2001.
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